A married couple living together in a house means that they also share bed with each other. Sleep is essential human needs and sleeping together brings peaceful feelings to them and makes married life become happier
Why need to share?
That should not become a question. Cause this is totally natural. You have a spouse and you love them. So that you should sleep with them even if you find it ok to sleep alone. Sharing a bed is kind of sharing emotional intimacy and drawn couple closer
But sometimes, it is not problem that they do not like each other. Maybe the reason from someone can make the other feel uncomfortable and want to use separate bed. Sleep incompatibility is unavoidable issue that many couples are facing
If you’re not sleeping well with your partner in a bed, you are not alone. It’s a big problem. A National Sleep Foundation Survey found:
- Nearly 13% of married couples sleep alone.
- More than 11% of married adults with children report typically add children in the middle; a vast majority of these adults (81%) report that they have a sleep problem with their spouse.
In fact, there is many differences of sleeping together, here are some of typical examples:
- Wake up at different time and alarm is noisy to each other
- He likes the dark and she need lights
- He needs TV to sleep but she needs quiet
- One partner tosses, turns, and thrashes all night
- He can’t find a mattress that’s just right
- Some like it hot and others like it cold
All of this sleep incompatibility can lead to big problems to the relationship. This leads them to deny sleeping together and use separate bed or bedroom to have to a good sleep.. Some couples think that sleeping apart often gets a better night’s sleep – which can be a positive in the relationship..
However, lots of couples find resolutions to harmonize. Snoring changes from day to day, temperature preferences change, and someone who tosses and turns might settle down… Cause they understand only change can help them to sleep together and cultivate married life. It should not happen when husband and wife lie in two beds.
Every trouble can be solved if people truly want to change for each other to have good sleep routine. The most important thing to do is comprise. Two people need to change a little in sleeping habit which compatible to the other. Example If you have to get up earlier in the morning, turn off alarm as soon as opening your eyes, get dressed in another room so you don’t disturb your partner. Or, if you like to stay up late and watch TV, adjust the volume at a reasonable level.
Don’t mind to change and always be conscious that sleeping together is an art of husband and wife. Pay a little attention to harmonize.