Why Empty Nesters Need to Keep Planning and Dreaming
Empty nesters whose children have left home for the first time to go to college or live on their own may feel loneliness. But instead of being in deep of sadness, they should keep living and dreaming for themselves. Life is beautiful and it depends on how you live
The emptying of the nest is a life transition that is not often talked about — at least not to the extent that we analyze the impact of getting married, having children and retiring. However, the act of children leaving home has emotional and financial reverberations that rival all of the other big events in your life
Here are tips for enjoying the empty nest and ideas for using this stage of your life as a good building block for the next big phase — a secure and happy retirement.
Planning for future
If you prepared a will when your kids were small, your top priority might have been naming a guardian to raise them. Now that the kids are grown and leave the house, they don’t need a guardian anymore. But you may not realize how out-of-date the rest of your plan is, and how it fails to address new issues you may face in mid-life and old age.
Future is in your hand. And you should the one drawing your future. To be a new empty nest, you should prepare for the days without children. You miss them and wish them come back but you have to accept the truth that they have to live on their own and leave you for a time. The loss of your daily joy of caring kids can change your routine. That’s why you need to make a new plan for your coming day.
You can start with a nice album with family pictures, then you open everyday with nostalgia mind. You can decorate your house with colorful picture in the wall or change new painting color. Set up plan to meet your old friends, have holidays of two people, do volunteer. In fact, there are a lot of things to do as a new life. Then you will get used to with the life lacking your children.
Getting out to the world
The outside world is very interesting. You had spent half of your life to take care of your kids. Now it is time for you to discover the world of empty nest. It will not that boring as you imagined.
Take dance lessons. This is one of interesting activities to do because it’s a good way to spend quality time with your spouse, or it’s an exciting way to do some exercise.
Learn a sport. It’ll make you feel energized and young again.
Learn a new language. If you’ve always wanted to learn a language, now is the time to do it. Take courses from a nearby place. It is not too late for you to learn what you did not have chance to try.
Go to holidays. It absolutely is great idea. No more worry, no more busy, you can spend as many days as you want to a long trip to a new city that you’ve dreamed when you were focusing on raising kids.
You may remember back to the times when you were buying your first home, starting a family, and beginning to buy things like furniture and household goods. Eventually, you may have upgraded to a larger space, grew the family more, and maybe even acquired family pets.
Now that the kids have moved out of the house and you’ve become empty nesters, you may look at your house full of memories as a place that is just too large for only two of you. If you don’t think it’s worth it to maintain such a large space meant for a growing family, you may be ready to downsize into a smaller retirement home.
When you’re ready to move into a smaller space, you’ll have to be prepared to downsize your belongings and the things you want to keep going forward