Forgiveness – not a strange word but it is really one of greatness things in life. Whenever being hurt, no one can hide disappointment and sadness but think simply, when you tolerate for someone who has hurt you, you will feel more comfortable. Especially, in marriage, What should let go, let it go. Forgiveness can save your relationship and bring a happy married life.
Forgiveness isn’t something you do for the person who wronged you; it’s something you do for you.
If you are always deep in sadness and disappointment or anger, you are destroying both your emotion and your health. Don’t be the victim of feud. Feud cannot help you to solve problem, cannot make those who had hurt you understand what you face. Forgiving someone for hurting you has been shown to relieve stress, so you’ll be doing yourself a favor in the process. Learning to forgive someone can be a long and intensive process, but may be a better option than holding a grudge.
Here are a few ways to forgive your partner fully after they’ve hurt you.
1. Do it for yourself
When your partner has hurt you, you feel the urge to hurt them the same way. However, in doing so, you will be giving rise to even more complications in the relationship. If not for the partner, you must forgive them for your own sake, for your peace of mind. The more grudges you will hold against your companion regarding their mistakes, the more mental stress you will be putting yourself into. So think that forgiveness is for you, because you don’t deserve this.
2. Understand what happened and why did it hurt you
Look back to the incident which hurt and upset you. Accept that it happened. Accept how you felt about it and how it made you react. In order to forgive, you need to acknowledge the reality of what occurred and how you were affected.
3. Be receptive
Another way of how to forgive your partner who has hurt you is to accept certain behaviors of them. When you engage in a relationship, especially with your long-life partner, you already accept who they are and what they did. Nothing can prevent you from loving them. At the end, you love each other. So that it is totally possible when you think slowly about how you loved them so you will know why you should be receptive and tolerate them.
4. Look for the Positive
Everything happened, every word was told. It is not true that your partner want to hurt you. They may have reasons or they could not control their feeing and their words. They live with you and they love you. They or you can be flawed, so that think simply and positively, everyone can make mistakes and they all hope for forgiveness from whom they have hurt.
5. Be patient
You must not push yourself into forgiving your partner in order to feel fine. It must happen on its own time. Forgiveness requires feeling willing to forgive. Be patient with the process and allow yourself to feel any emotions that are expected of you, as you are hurt. If you actually cannot let everything go at first, you spend time thinking more about this incident till it’s clear and you feel better. Don’t worry and hurry up. Do it easily.
6. Control your emotions
Your feelings are your own. If you decide you are willing to forgive, just do it and do not regret. Don’t let feud control your emotion and your action. What you should do is for comfortable feelings without thinking so much.
How to Ask for Forgiveness When You Have Hurt Your Partner
Sometimes, in normal life, you can also make someone hurt, you can feel regret after that and you know sorry cannot let them feel comfortable or forget your mistakes.
So, how to ask them for tolerance?
Think about what you did to upset the person
Understand why you did what you did
Empathize with the person you wronged
Remember that your mistake does not make you a bad person
Apologizing can be hard because it requires you to admit that you have done something wrong. Just remember that by apologizing, you are not admitting to being a bad person. You feel regret and you truly want to say sorry to your partner. Don’t let them sad or upset because of what you do. They are also waiting for your reaction. Be active before waiting for their tolerance!
You see, You can turn what is impossible can be possible. There are mistakes which cannot be forgiven, but it actually depends on your decision.
You really appreciate your marriage so that remember even something is extremely serious, spend time for yourself and your partner to think again about your relationship.
Both of you should find solution for the matter instead of holding negative thinking about each other.