Sometimes, a couple live together and repeat the routine habits in life. They keep boring conversation every day, about how to earn money, how to teach their kids or what was their day. But an important thing that they seem to forget or ignore is sharing the feelings with partner. Emotional connection is the key to nurse an intimacy relationship, draw them to be closer. Talking about your own feelings is what you should do every day with your partner.
Why sharing emotion is needful?
Love between couple is built based on same beat of two souls. For love emotion, they understand partner, know their feeling to share when they are sad or happy, why they act like that. When getting in marriage, this habit should be maintained and developed. Some couples live in a house for a long time then they are caught up in a living and gradually forget how they connected…others don’t even know to share feelings with their partner, each one lives in their own world of emotions
Love is sharing and emotion is a special catalyst. Connecting emotions of two people can shrink distance and raise intimacy.
Strategies to improving emotional intimacy with your partner
“Emotional intimacy is a sense of closeness developed with another person over time,” Dr. Wyatt Fisher, a licensed psychologist in Colorado, tells Bustle. “Usually it involves a feeling of safety and having your inner thoughts and feelings known and accepted. Everyone desires a different level of emotional intimacy based on their attachment experiences growing up and what their ‘normal’ was. Therefore, there’s no hard and fast rule on what’s enough.
So how to develop more emotional intimacy ?
Every day, sit together and you ask your partner to talk about his or her feelings, keep these three ideas in mind:
- Are you really asking them to share their emotions with you?Or do you have something specific in mind that you want to hear from them?
- If you’re genuinely interested in what they have to say, then it’s important to let your partner say it in whatever language they can.
- Double-check your own feelings, while you’re at it.
It’s normal to ask each other about their days, even some minutes of talking, you can understand your partner. As long as more often than not, you lean on, share with, and are open with each other, there’s enough emotional intimacy.”
How to find things to talk about?
Some people find it difficult to turn casual conversation into a deep talk. Think of hiding emotions and keeping secrets like a safe way to protect their relationship. No, how can your partner understand how you feel when you do not want to share with them, how can they know what did you face after a long day working? Knowing how to have a deep conversation isn’t easy. That said, talking about deep topics – rather than small talk – is crucial to maintaining an intimate connection. All depends on your active attitude. If your partner cannot do that, you can help them and drag them into the conversation you are trying to share. There are a lot of questions and topics in daily life, and don’t worry that you cannot find them. One day, you come back home after a working day, you excitedly tell you wife that your boss praised you for good achievements in marketing strategy, then you wife will also be happy with you about that. Or your wife bought a new dress and ask you for opinion, you tell her that she is so beautiful in it…
Such simple topics but bring happy feeling, make you love your partner more. So why don’t you try and do it every day?