We often don’t want to do anything when we’re depressed, even tend to let go of everything. If you feel depressed now, find a way to overcome it before you lose yourself. me!
You may feel discouraged by your inferiority to your own values, loss of interest in your work, frustration with your partner, conflict with your partner, or a late age. People often say that “life is a miserable life” with a lot of envy, a depressed mood is an experience that anyone has ever experienced.
Signs that you are feeling depressed
Depression can be a symptom of psychological illnesses such as stress, depression or autism. Therefore, you need to recognize signs of depressed mood early to find a way out for yourself.
1. Feeling depressed with yourself
If you feel depressed with yourself, you will have the following signs:
Choose an avatar with a dark color or never change a new avatar.
Don’t buy new clothes and dress very sloppy, even scandal.
As a patron of milk tea shops, fast food, pubs …
Rarely dating friends because they don’t care about relationships.
There are thoughts of suicide when there are unresolved pressure problems.
Depression can cause you to form many bad habits like drinking, smoking or playing games over night. This not only makes the situation worse but is also harmful to health.
2. Feeling depressed at work
Do you start thinking about wanting to quit because you feel depressed with your treatment, development opportunities and relationships with your boss? Let’s see if you are depressed tired of work or not.
In the morning, you hear the bell ring but don’t want to get up to prepare for work.
In the afternoon, you always feel sleepy and rarely concentrate on work.
In the afternoon, you look at the clock constantly hoping to turn off your laptop right now.
In the evening, you never bring things home and don’t reply to emails.
At night, sometimes you dream of finding yourself angry with your boss or resigning.
When the job is overloaded and the boss is in difficulty, you will be like a drop of water overflowing with feelings of discontent that has reached its peak. If you don’t overcome the frustration, you’ll just want to quit your job as soon as possible despite the risk of unemployment.
3. Feeling depressed in love
After having gone through the sweet phase of love, you and the person will enter a challenging phase with a feeling of discouragement when the opponent is not what you think. This is one of the most difficult stages you need to face to get married later.
Write depressed love statuses or share pessimistic posts about marriage.
No more texting questions like: “What are you doing?”, “Are you sleeping?” …
Just a very small mistake, you can get angry and ask for a break up.
Find all the reasons to refuse to meet your friends or launch your loved one.
You want to try the feeling of flirting and dating someone who is not … lover.
Anyone who is new to love may feel depressed because the chainsaw doesn’t fall or has fallen, so it is all attractive. Those who have loved for a long time are inevitably bored sometimes when their lovers understand each other so clearly that there is nothing mysterious to discover.
4. Feeling depressed with couple life
Married life is a stormy journey when you have to deal with your spouse’s relationship and raise your children. If you feel depressed couple life, you will have the following common signs.
Do not spend time taking care of your family: cooking, taking care of sickness …
Sit down to eat together in silence or just talk to each other when necessary.
It is easy to get angry when a wife makes a mistake or lethargy over a husband / wife’s changes
There was no interest in pillow, even becoming frigid.
Rarely go out together or not bring your spouse to meet friends.
Most of us can’t avoid feeling depressed about family life when confronting conflicts. Especially when your spouse has children, your life seems to be turned upside down.
5. Feeling depressed with today life
If young people often feel depressed in work, love and marriage, older people are confused when they step into the other half of their lives. People with severe illness also face feelings of depression in their lives.
Eating does not feel uncomfortable, sometimes eating tangerines or skip meals.
Sleeping uneasily because of the feeling of anxiety and anxiety is a difficult problem.
Don’t want to talk to anyone, including someone you have been close to.
Choose a peaceful life, do not want to strive to develop yourself anymore.
Obsess about loneliness, illness and death when you are alone.
Feeling depressed now can make you regret the past and regret the decisions you have made. This can nibble on the mind every day that makes you want to give up everything.
How to turn depressed mood into motivation
When you feel depressed, everything is meaningless. Even favorite food becomes bland. You don’t even want to confide in people you love or trust … So what should you do when you feel depressed?
Listen to the voice from deep within you, if you feel so depressed that you don’t want to do anything, then allow yourself to be true to yourself. You need to be relaxed before finding a way to get rid of the depressed mood.
• Relieve emotions the way you want: Instead of trying to control your emotions, you can cry, scream, whine …
• Rest or suspend work: You should ask for leave when your depressed mood makes it impossible for you to focus on doing anything.
• Isolation from people who make you tired: If you have just clashed with someone, avoid contacting them for a while until your emotions balance.
• Allow yourself to be “lazy”: When you feel depressed, do something less effective, you should accept this fact instead of tormenting yourself.
• Sleep comfortably when you feel depressed: Sleep will help you recover, while calming down negative emotions the next morning.
You should limit the time to “relax” about 1-2 days to avoid sinking into the quagmire of depressed mood. After that, you will find a way to turn your depressed mood into a driving force and move your feelings of boredom away.
1. Makeover into a new person
Sometimes, you will feel depressed “for no reason”. This is a common feeling in people who do not know what they want, nor do they know what to do to reduce boredom. Meanwhile, many people feel discouraged because they are criticized too heavily. This is the case of Taylor Swift when being “like a snake” on social networks.
“If someone tells you about it on social media, that doesn’t take you down. Even that makes you stronger. ”- Taylor Swift
According to CNN, the 28-year-old girl bravely challenged all those who cheated her with the album “Reputation” with the cult song “Look What You Made Me Do”. In just 5 days, the song has won the top spot in the search trend on YouTube Vietnam. Perhaps, the lyrics have released a lot of “rebellious souls”!
If you feel depressed with yourself, why not try “rebellion” to express your own personality? You can molt into a completely new person from hair, costume to behavior. You can register for a training course such as gym, yoga, swimming, jumping … If you have ever been overwhelmed because you are so gentle, try boldly to protect your rights. You will overcome the depressed mood and feel that this “new person” is more energetic.
2. Create a career breakthrough
Steve Jobs delivered a speech at Stanford University in 2005
What should you do when you’re tired of work? Before deciding to quit your job to start what you want, consider carefully. A temporary depressed mood can make you make wrong decisions. Although the current job is not as perfect as you want, this may be an important stepping stone to help you make a breakthrough in your career.
In a speech at Stanford University (2005), Steve Jobs compared his experiences as “dots” promising to connect many surprises in the future. Without ever learning the art of calligraphy, this technology king did not apply to the first Mac with beautiful fonts.
“Believe that the event dots in your life will affect your future. You need to have faith in something like courage, fate, life, destiny or whatever “- Steve Jobs
Whenever you feel depressed, tell yourself that the experiences you have will help you go further in the future. You cannot become an entrepreneur without ever investing in losses. You will be hard to be a good manager if you never work at the lowest position. Turn your current difficulties into “gold test fire”, whether your career will grow or not depends very much on your efforts now!
3. Decide a turn in love
Singer Adele – One of the richest under 30-year-old stars in the UK
In the stages of love, the period of depression can mark a milestone in your relationship. Instead of posting depressing status about love or blaming the person, you need to take a quiet time to rethink everything and make a decision about the next turn for both.
“Be brave and believe that even if you make the wrong decision, it comes from a good reason” – Adele
Unlike a career that is based on reason, your love needs the heart’s vibration. You may decide to continue your relationship or break up, but always listen to your heart and mind so you never have to regret your choice.
4. Don’t sacrifice too much for your family
Song Joong Ki and Song Hye Kyo couple recently divorced on July 27, 2016
If men often feel depressed about family life due to financial pressure, women feel tired when they make hundreds of them and take care of their children. From a traditional point of view, women have to sacrifice their careers to stay at home to raise their children and serve their husbands. It is this that pushes the lives of many women into dead ends when they cannot live for themselves.
“My mother told me that what could not be resolved, let go of your hand, agree with your will to let the soul be peaceful …” – Song Hye Kyo
When Song Hye Kyo and Song Joong Ki’s beautiful love broke, fans’ hearts were also broken because of the Korean couple’s cult couple. The reason for divorce, though not explicitly expressed by the stars, but Hye Kyo’s confession also shows that she simply let go of her hand because “it is natural”.
If you’re bored with family life, that’s natural. Please cultivate your home with all your heart, but you need to know when to “need” and when to “need”. A mature man to protect his family will never let go of the woman he loves, regardless of whether you have a “diamond”. Therefore, you should not sacrifice too much for your family to love yourself more when entering a marriage life.
5. Constantly learning new things
When feeling depressed now, try watching the movie The Intern (Godfather Apprentice) to understand that you are wasting your time in vain. If a 70-year-old man like Ben Whittaker can start over again as a trainee of an online sales company, why are you so frustrated when you’re young at the age of 20, 30 or 40?
“I know my life has a hole and I will fill it” – Ben Whittaker
Instead of asking yourself what to do when you are discouraged, you should create an opportunity for yourself to experience new things like changing jobs, starting a business or simply enrolling in a new skill. When you constantly learn new things, age will not become a barrier that makes you feel depressed.
Each of us will have different choices to answer the question: “What should I do when I’m depressed?” Because everyone has his own personality. If the introverts learn how to write a diary to help dispel stress, the outward-looking people prefer to go out and gather with friends. Whatever you do, then you should rethink yourself to turn your depressed mood into a momentum forward!